Reconsidering Divorce? Think Anew!
Many couples at the edge of separation still privately and very seriously rethink the course they are to go. Is reunion the more appropriately way? Any Georgia divorce lawyer could tell you that numerous divorcing couples still venture out the question of reconciliation even as they file the divorce papers. Only a small percentage is truly bent on divorce and most couples would fancy staying with their mates if changes become possible, and a Georgia divorce attorney is duty-bound to enumerate the disadvantages and benefits of either direction.
Naturally all couples seeking divorce do it for the reason that they have differences in their marital bond, and could only abide to live with each other if specific changes are established. While none in their marriage agreements is stated about any spouse changing the other to conform to his or her preferences, people always do it and end up disappointed when they fall short. However, many spouses do meander for the worse as the times go by, making the partner to lastly say in the end, Enough is enough! and file for divorce.
If you are one of these suffering marital martyrs, and are still asking yourself if reconciliation is probable while filling up the divorce documents, you may ask yourself instead: Will my wanted changes be enough to live again with him or her? And is it feasible for the changes to occur? Imaginethat your partner agreed to try so you found a good marriage counselor went through the process and chose to live with each other, again. Would that be adequate to live another time with him or her, with all the pain that still smolder in your past? If the reply to any of the previous questions is no, then going on with the divorce may be advisable.
Wantinga reunion only expresses a want to return to something familiar and hence; a statement of the fear of the unknown, the living after divorce. But if you reunite you will merely be in familiar settings not a known future, which is unknown no matter what. So that leaves you on the limits of that same unknown, using out your days always asking about the what ifs on the other side of divorce. Living with the memories and hurt everytime you think of the betrayal and cheating that caused the dichotomy in the first place, and always sensitive of that lack of trust that cannot be erased anymore.
So maybe divorce is the best course for you. If you ultimately formed the conclusion there is no glancing back, not even to see the bridges coming down. Do not name yourself a quitter, nor a fatalist, nor a failure nor a fiasco, for you are not any of them. You want to sever your shortfall, all the previous heavy investments in emotion, time and others aside. You deserve your own life to live your way, after all.
But if there is even some joy in reunion, it is worth the attempt. Life teaches us lessons and we do learn them, sometimes. There could be one for you and your mate, somewhere.
